Before Students Need a Program, They Need a Place to Belong
Author
Jeanette Staats
Date
June 8, 2026
This article emerged from the Fresh Expressions Podcast episode “Finding Belonging” featuring David Kim, author of Made to Belong. To listen to the full conversation, visit.
Across North America, church leaders are asking important questions about how to connect with college students and young adults. Many campuses are filled with opportunities to connect, yet meaningful community often remains elusive. Despite being surrounded by classmates, roommates, organizations, and online networks, many students still struggle to find places where they feel truly known.
The challenge facing churches is not simply how to gather students into a room. It is how to cultivate spaces where people can experience belonging.
In a conversation on the Fresh Expressions Podcast, David Kim, author of Made to Belong, reflected on his own journey of loneliness, belonging, and community. Born in South Korea and moving to the United States at age ten, David experienced firsthand the challenges of finding connection in an unfamiliar culture. As he reflected on both his personal story and his years of pastoral ministry, he came to a realization:
“I realized that wait a minute—I’m not the only one struggling with loneliness. So many of our people are coming into the church community longing and desperate for deeper spiritual friendships and communities.”
While David’s comments were not directed specifically toward college students, they name a reality that many campus ministers, pastors, and church leaders encounter every day. Beneath the activity, busyness, and constant connection of modern life is a deep desire to be known.
Belonging Often Begins with Shared Interests
One of the practices David identifies in his work is what he calls “chemistry.” For some Christians, that word may feel uncomfortable. Aren’t we supposed to love everyone equally? David suggests a more nuanced approach. He explains, “There is actually a way for us to love all and still be okay to lean into the few that God is highlighting in our lives.” Host Heather Jallad immediately connected this idea to the Fresh Expressions movement, observing that “a lot of these Fresh Expressions of church kind of develop around affinity groups.”
That observation helps explain why many Fresh Expressions begin not with a worship service, Bible study, or church program, but with a shared interest, hobby, passion, or experience. Again and again, we see relationships develop when people gather around something they already enjoy together.
Several years ago, a member of our church in Blacksburg, Virginia, began wondering what might happen if her love of hiking became a place for spiritual connection. Emma, an avid hiker, noticed that many people in our region found meaning, reflection, and even a sense of God’s presence while spending time outdoors. Rather than waiting for a church committee to launch a ministry, she simply invited others to experiment with her. The first hikes included moments of silence, prayer, reflection, and conversation. Participants were invited to pay attention to creation through their senses and notice where God might be speaking or inviting them deeper. What began as a simple invitation created opportunities for meaningful spiritual conversations among people who already shared a love for the outdoors.
We’ve seen this same principle surface in a variety of experiments among college students and young adults. Some have gathered around intramural sports, discovering that shared practices, regular rhythms of games, and post winning (or defeat) milkshake runs create natural opportunities for friendship. Others have explored communities built around gaming and shared interests that provide a low-pressure environment for students to spend time together, build relationships, and eventually engage in deeper conversations about life and faith.
The common thread in each of these examples is not the activity itself. Hiking, sports, and gaming are simply the contexts. The deeper reality is that people are often more willing to explore questions of faith after they have first experienced a sense of belonging. Shared interests create space for trust, friendship, and community to develop naturally.
Belonging Happens Around Tables
Not every Fresh Expression begins on a hiking trail or athletic field. Some begin around a dinner table.
At First Church in Williamsport, Pennsylvania, a ministry called Sunday Slowdown creates space for college students to step away from the pressures of campus life. The gathering centers around a home-cooked meal, board games, and a simple invitation to set phones aside and be fully present with the people in the room. In a season of life often marked by deadlines, constant notifications, and increasing isolation, Sunday Slowdown offers something many students deeply need: a place to slow down and be known.
This desire to be known is one of the central themes David returns to throughout his conversation with Heather. Reflecting on the role of vulnerability in healthy community, he asks, “We want to be known but if you do not open up then how can we be truly known to begin with?” Genuine belonging requires more than simply occupying the same room. It requires trust, openness, and the willingness to share life together.
Gatherings like Sunday Slowdown remind us that meaningful community is often built through ordinary practices. Sharing a meal, playing a game, listening to another person’s story, or simply being fully present can create the conditions where deeper relationships begin to form. While these moments may appear simple from the outside, they often become the foundation for significant spiritual conversations and lasting friendships.
Beyond Content Toward Connection
Many churches work hard to create opportunities for learning and discipleship. Bible studies, classes, and small groups remain important tools for spiritual growth. Yet David offers a helpful challenge for those leading communities.
“When your group is primarily about regurgitating content,
then you’re not really able to forge meaningful relationships.”
David is quick to clarify that he loves Scripture and values Bible study. The issue is not the content itself. The issue is stopping there. As he explains:
“We have to move on from being just regurgitating content to how that content
is affecting and shaping and forming our lives.”
This insight may be particularly important when considering ministry among college students and young adults. Many students are not looking for another lecture. They are looking for people who will walk alongside them. They are looking for spaces where questions are welcomed, stories are shared, and faith becomes something lived rather than simply discussed.
Heather reflected on this same reality from her experience helping leaders start Fresh Expressions. “I’ve encouraged them to lead with their own limitations rather than walking in the room and saying, ‘I’ve got all the answers.’” Authentic community is rarely built through expertise alone. More often, it grows through honesty, curiosity, and a willingness to journey together.
A Question Worth Asking
As church leaders consider ministry among college students, young adults, and emerging generations, perhaps the first question is not:
“What program should we start?”
Perhaps the better question is:
Where are people already finding connection?
Around meals?
On hiking trails?
Through intramural sports?
In gaming communities?
Around creative projects?
Through service opportunities?
Through shared passions?
The Fresh Expressions movement has discovered time and again that belonging often begins in ordinary places and through ordinary experiences. Long before people are ready to explore faith, they are often looking for friendship. Long before they are looking for a church service, they are often looking for a place where they can be known.
The goal is not to create an activity for students. The goal is to discover where God may already be creating opportunities for belonging.
What shared experiences already exist around your campus? Where are students already gathering? What passions, interests, hobbies, or needs might become the starting point for meaningful relationships? What if the next Fresh Expression among college students begins not with a program, but with belonging?
These are some of the questions we continue to explore together during the Fresh Expression Incubators.

About the Author
Jeanette
Staats
Jeanette Staats has spent more than two decades investing in college students, developing leaders, and helping people grow in faith. She serves on the board of The Ecclesia Network and brings a deep love for discipleship, community, and the local church. A proud Virginia Tech graduate, she's almost always ready to talk Hokie sports.












